MOTHERLY EMOTIONS

Yesterday's motherly greetings was flooded in bloggers world and on cellular phones to a far distance mother friends.Both I recieved are emotionals-why?- those friends that are no communications in long period of times send and remembered me.I have most and surprising messages that until now it is on my mind thinking that my daughter was finished her adolescents path of  life. She is matured enough to what she send to me ,unbelievable!.

Last year when I went home to attend my father's funeral, one of my cousin's during mourning whispher me that it is impossible that my eldest daughter don't have boyfriend.He even heard in cousin's groups(grandchildrens of my father)saying"Oh YANyan where is your bf? today is like knowing each other".I never heard that but when we already at home I asked my daughter if it is true or not. But deny to death from her mouth.Since then that I went back to work in Israel I never forget every weekend to get online and have a short message on her. Still she remains silent and I always giving her some inspirational stories like one "if you have good scholastic records ,you can land the best jobs and you choose what companies you want". At the last messages I'm sending something like this "if you have a good job you can have the good boyfriend too-choices will be in you".Then " I want blue eyes grand childrens" this words that my hubby hates me, hahahaha.

After motherly greetings she send me yesterday, there was words of "thank you MA for everything and don't worry I don't have BF anymore,we parted our ways.We didn't meet and talk after our high school graduation.Everything was just on the txt messages and on friendster. So ..I'm still intact to focus on my studies,hugs&kisses".I was on the public vehicle bound to city of Natanya to where the nearest city I'm working on that momment reading her messages.I can't control my emotions and I cried loudly, so.... some passengers asked the driver to stopped for a while and to look what's going on inside why his passengers are noisy. In few minutes I told them sorry because today is "mother's day" that I never felt they are celebrating this day either .

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Sibling's Fight

 Blood is thicker than water - these are the  words that my parents told me always when I was a young child.We always fights with my brothers and sisters every after meals who will wash dishes.I grown up that everything was done manually , I mean by hands, so households chores are  assigned to us children right after we woke up.That was a command from my father and we are thankful for it that we grew up with all works are known especially inside the house.But outside the house or far away from home we never fights.We go anywhere  buddy -buddy, as if partner-girl&boy until we bacome mature it becomes our habbit too.

Below is the email of my youngest daugther, funny as if she's writting as blogger.I did not omit nor erase or add any words there.Last Monday while my husband got online and we discussed about the eldest in the city, riZAH wrote this.....

(riZAH's email)

Me and my brother oftently fight with each other, like this one-i don't know when this happened- i combine some of this happenings....

Every morning i wake up so late, sometimes im not in a good mood,then my brother(norman) is always bugging me that mostly gets me angry...He shouts on my face,playing tricks on me,and the thing i hate so much-he punches me,he makes my day the worst... so that makes me think- his r--e,mean and ---l!

 Another thing is when we're watching tv(at our sala's tv-before)it was a good movie then he-not so surprisingly-walks in front of me blocking the view of the tv,when i say ''move'', he throws his pillow on me right into my face....so i slap him then punch back on me.... every time that happens i call him "@$&*%" and mostly"gay"(which is not true) i call him that because he fight with girls(which is me)then our father scolds us but not too much because were fighting in nonsense things which also my mother says.... so after a while of quiet minutes we usually returns in the normal way.... then it happens again and again... whew.. its tiring but he never stops...... then i realize something that there's always a siblings fight but family relationship always make it right..... til now he does it always... I may say his an  @$&*% but still he my brother... a lesson i will not forget....

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PARENTING #2 - YANyan

Far away from home is not a hindrance of a good parenting process.I'm giving all these credits to high technology-the digital world they said that  gave us all the ways to be with our family and love one's anytime of the days.

Last three days my husband got online and we discussed about our eldest daugther in Manila - she's alone there.She wants to transfer this coming semester in another boarding house.She wants more and bigger rooms as she always said if the internships will going on and she wants privacy.Ahh...yes a bit crowded by now where she is staying.

Another was the upcoming "capping" day,I want to find the professional or in line of this business to take videos during that day.But before thier duties in hospital begins they need to be interview-I dont know what interview and she needs to buy a set of formal clothes to use.hihihihi funny it's mother like daughter that don't have or not wearing formal skirts or dresses.She asked her father but my husband also don't know it.He is a kind of man that didn't  bought me these kind of stuffs.hahahaha.We are wearing both kinds of outfit.So he needs my decissions what ever goes...Parenting is in need of both husband and wives suggestions then ask the childrens also if they will like it too.So...late in the evening I monitored she got online because she still have some research works.I just leave messages that if still have time after that research I need to talk too.And that's it...she finally decides what to buy- a set of pants and polo blouse then flat shoes.She don't like wearing shoes with high heels and also me hihihihi because she always saying that she is and I saw it in all of her pictures , the kind of tall compared to her classmates.

About all pictures I'm putting- she dislikes it but I told her that she needs to be careful and behave always.Why? If all my friends in blogosphere see her anywhere they will tell me, so..that's mean point here. This is not a treat to her or any thing that she could have a lack of confidence to herself but this the right thing to do for her future and just think that I'm  just doing  anything for her own good. A lot of explanations and inspirational stories to tell or people I meet why they are successful in life.The salaries is best tools to inspire her if she will make good grades in her studies. So far.. so good.....

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NORman SKETCHES

Here are some sketches made by my son where ever they go or after he played his PS.My husband never disturbed him if he is very silent in his room that means he is making some of this sketches.As I said he started making drawings when he was in grade three if I'm not mistaken that the elementary teachers noticed him doing on the blackboard during thier recess(breaktime).He showed me all of these last week but it appears very light after scanning.So he re-touch it again ,he did at least two or three sketches everyday.He used an ordinary pencil and ballpen , the truth is we cannot afford to buy those materials for professional artist.These are the latest he made.
Maybe this is on his play station he usually played on.He likes very much mostly in cartoons that he got the winning prize two years ago in the contest of the whole islands- junior caregory.
He was standing,I'm sure I can imagine here,at the backyard of my parents house looking down the ricefield and up high the mountains which my father owned.They always visited there even now my father was gone.He is my father's best grandson.
Yes they went last two weeks maybe , at the fishpond near the sea of on my sister's place.There was a bamboo house and if you look at the sea you view this small islets in nearby.He did not include on the rightside was a small village below the hills and seashore.
The nieghbor of my mother was best in this string and stone (tirador)used to hit birds and wild animals. He always want to go with them but I did not allowed him to go.
His favorite cartoon character and there's a lot more soon.

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TO BE or NOT TO BE DISCUSS

I observed here abroad that parents are talking to thier childrens like as matured people.Things that are concerned in every aspects of knowing what is going on around.Explanations and applications of each things that in someways makes the children so interesting and more curios to ask if they saw in any places.These also makes children always in the presence of mind where ever they go.

As parent of three there are things that we need to hide or not to be discuss to them if it is sensitive examples that might lead them to regrets. I never let my three kids go anywhere without knowing of whom they with or ask the place where to go. Since I am a young girl I didn't heard my parents shouting each other or yelling any time , I can't even remember nor seen them fighting.Sometimes there is a proof of saying of "what the children seen to thier parents are always like to follow them".For example of these was when the parents fights in front of thier kids believe me or not the childrens are also have an attitudes of always fight  to thier friends and classmates. They become  defensive to themselves if they are far away from home.

Young generations are so curios of what they've seen outside that they are always applying to themselves without any permission involving thier parents.So..reminders of all things like bad and good for them are the duties and responsibilities of each parents everywhere.Those children of having a parents like a busy working people are somtimes neglected them.

In my situation I always and spending time discussing things on the telephone or internet online of all examples that should benifits for them .Like if I saw or knew a story that is good for them I'm always telling them no matter how much I will spend. How sure am I if my kids are following or doing it that I am here? My husband always said " agent 007---the spy who loves me. " I always have a lot of connections around to ask before I ask them. No way to lie on me, I am a great spy to them for thier good future. One time my husband together with my mother and three kids went to a wedding party I rang him  in the middle of nowhere. Minutes before they go I spoke to him and asked if there's any schedule but he deny it. So they was surprised when I call and said they are there.He just laugh at same time our son asked he never told he lied to me.

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