NORman idolized this guy?

My kids had always fun time viewing comedy show especially if I'm home because I hate dramas.We enjoyed viewing Mr.bean's show always.I never knew that Norman was doing what he has seen on tv and he even acted like this in school or any place where they are except my presence and the two girls are the audience laughter.When I asked they stop and said nothing.It is only now I found this video that those gestures are from here. So funny that even now if he is driving his doing it also.My son has this attitude of something like he is practising to have shows even if his lying on his bed and not yet asleep. One time I saw him without his knowledge I'm behind the door looking for him. I thought there's something wrong with him but my husband told me that he is always like that.Most videos of Mr. Bean I viewed are good but some are not for young teenagers. In western countries maybe they allowed thier teenagers but for my 3kids I don't want them to see things that is more than what they had. I mean teenagers are most curious of all things they have seen. So for me not seeing those things are the best way to avoid them to think or get away things that they might do.So I always reminding my husband to monitor them even in school that we are lucky the guard chief is my former classmate and a high school friend,  so the record shows thier in and out time in school vicinity.

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what is your own definition of RESPECT

No exact definition of word RESPECT , it applies thru emotions but not fear as what most people openly misunderstood. To honor and ESTEEM has the roles to  respect a person.  One with honor has the ability to admit when they are wrong and esteem is when someone is placed in high regard or a feeling of high pride.

According to Thesaurus:
Respect - is a behavior intended to please your parents
for example of these meaning are the following:
*****"their children were never very strong on obedience"
*****"she went to $&@ school out of respect for his mother's wishes"
We never heard of my eldest daughter of what she wants to be in the future . As a mother with a long and winding road of  experienced and grown up in poverty I must say I know what is right for her.She even complained to my husband during her first semester then hubby relayed it to me. A lot of suggestions, examples and motivations I did during her two years in college but last month she told me and appreciated of what I'm doing to push her in taking up that course and now she's enjoying.I'm just hoping and praying that she will finish it for her own good.

some said :
Respect is a duty of a child to its parents

****in this part "I DISAGREE" why? not all duties of a child to follow thy parents .I mean not all parents intensions are for the good of thier children , there are some parents using  thier children as a fronts .   So it is very hard to a child to follow and its confuses them, if they did it by force children will become rebelous behind the back of their parents.As a parent it is a matter  of understanding and observations of how to command their child to build a good relationship until the end process that they(children) themselves freely accept everything what their parents did.So...duty is need to observed without hatred by this time and more meaningful to a happy ending.

 or it is also a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation

particular things like the way you approach or a kind of gesture to  peoples are always the tools  if they will respect you or not, so ... it is always said"it depends upon the situation". But if you will be in the crazy world of nonsense if you heard these words" If you want me to respect you , first you must respect yourself". It means this is already a disrespectful  to any one and the upbringing of the child maybe in low level of family values.Childrens that are hanging out all the time are influenced by thier friends or sometimes we said by the invironment.For me those who do not want my respect or vice versa I'm avoiding them. We cannot please everyone but only few of them.So leave it to them that way of what they wanted to be.

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Sibling's Fight

 Blood is thicker than water - these are the  words that my parents told me always when I was a young child.We always fights with my brothers and sisters every after meals who will wash dishes.I grown up that everything was done manually , I mean by hands, so households chores are  assigned to us children right after we woke up.That was a command from my father and we are thankful for it that we grew up with all works are known especially inside the house.But outside the house or far away from home we never fights.We go anywhere  buddy -buddy, as if partner-girl&boy until we bacome mature it becomes our habbit too.

Below is the email of my youngest daugther, funny as if she's writting as blogger.I did not omit nor erase or add any words there.Last Monday while my husband got online and we discussed about the eldest in the city, riZAH wrote this.....

(riZAH's email)

Me and my brother oftently fight with each other, like this one-i don't know when this happened- i combine some of this happenings....

Every morning i wake up so late, sometimes im not in a good mood,then my brother(norman) is always bugging me that mostly gets me angry...He shouts on my face,playing tricks on me,and the thing i hate so much-he punches me,he makes my day the worst... so that makes me think- his r--e,mean and ---l!

 Another thing is when we're watching tv(at our sala's tv-before)it was a good movie then he-not so surprisingly-walks in front of me blocking the view of the tv,when i say ''move'', he throws his pillow on me right into my face....so i slap him then punch back on me.... every time that happens i call him "@$&*%" and mostly"gay"(which is not true) i call him that because he fight with girls(which is me)then our father scolds us but not too much because were fighting in nonsense things which also my mother says.... so after a while of quiet minutes we usually returns in the normal way.... then it happens again and again... whew.. its tiring but he never stops...... then i realize something that there's always a siblings fight but family relationship always make it right..... til now he does it always... I may say his an  @$&*% but still he my brother... a lesson i will not forget....

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PARENTING- TEENAGERS MOTIVATION

Today's young generation are very smart kids.They know everything that the parents need to  say to them or what to say for thier own good. They are answering smartly and sometimes I felt there's no respect at all. When we are young we just silent and paying attention to what our parents said.Yes are the only answers to all of what they told us and there's no reasoning at all.If my father told me  that I need to do it , I must do it by all means just to follow them.Now my kids are the reverse of all things when I was young.

Teenagers motivation has different stages or it defends upon the attitudes of every kids. There is one which is timid  , others are very smart and silent loner children. Different approach to motivate them is a very hard task to a mother like me in far places. I said everything that is good for them but I really not sure if they are doing it because I'm not with them at all times.So to think of those situations was too heavy on my head. With all my prayers and  by this time my kids is still doing great. I just thankful that my kids are not like some others that they usually  making twisted stories in front of thier parents but behind it they are not desame. 

My son was a gifted child with  a talent  of drawing  things around him.He graduated elementary with the award of what they  called as cartoonist of the year. He obtained the fifth place during the Mindoro Islands kids journalism contest in Calapan City two years ago. It happened that only the teachers guided them without each parents to go with them and my son suffer trauma after that events and got sick . Since then he don't want to go anymore or join any contest .He told me that he was afraid and that might happend again. It was his first time to go far from home.He used to complain the food, the bed where they sleep etc..etc. It is very hard to motivate a child from a traumatic momments he had.Each time I told him to practice or draw something or join school activities like this he almost cry of hearing it. He never join any contest since then. But now I'm talking to him that because he has that gift from God he needs to broaden it to be a successful someday. This morning I told him that here in abroad even the children are not gifted they are good in doing things thru special trainings.Parent are sending them to specialist to teach and form a habbit of what they are doing. But my son no one of us told him to do it . School teachers discovered it and motivate him but in a short period of time. He show today what he did last night. He draw my picture in frame hanging on his room . Maybe in few days they will send email of all his sketches he did  last few days ago.

Motivating him is always following of  telling him I'll sending you this and that things he needs.Or what he wants to asks. Too expensive but need to agree on him and there's no choice. So my motivations to my 3kids are worth a lot, I mean to spend things  they want and to inspire them what to do.Example stories is not enough for them its always showing them the truth because they are curious of all things they saw around. So ...for me MOTIVATIONS means SPENDING a lot of money.

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NOR-ZAH (Today's chat)

Today's conversations with my two kids was made me head ache.Sometimes I cannot control my emotions of not sweety pampy style talks with them.They are old enough to learned everything especially for themselves. My kids grown up without me since they are in grade one-Norman and Leezah.Ages 14 and 13 consecutively are like in thier adolescents period of becoming lazy,eating too much and spend time more on  bed sleeping.

All these things that I never experienced during my early years.My father have time tables according to our ages what to do in that certain hours.I grown up with hatred but learned when I become a mother of three and I owed everything from my  father's strict rules around and outside the house.

My kids grown up with the attitudes acquired from my husband of having like "one is enough,two is too much" .Gush!!!why he draw three kids,right? So if he ask the kids to do but they don't like it- he did everything without any words that I hated most.Without me there is very complicated by now to say or instruct things that I want to be like. As if they don't mind me saying in other line of the phone(voice calls).I felt hurt but I have nothing to do.

Last week schedule on getting online was without rizah- they told me she's still sleeping.My goodness it was already nearly lunch time(phils time) when they got online.Another thing that my youngest daughter attitudes was - breakfast was all set in the table prepared by her brother or sometimes with her father.I felt I'm breaking my head to hear that kind of  lazy young lady of mind. My husband don't want to tell story and nonsense as he said always.I'm afraid as by now to think of what and how when they are alone in far places like me here abroad. 

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